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“I hate it here and I want to come home…”
“I don’t know anyone here…”
“I don’t fit in…”

Each �鶹��ý adjusts to college at their own pace and may face different challenges. Homesickness is a normal part of the transition. First-year �鶹��ýs are undergoing major adjustments in many aspects of their lives, and home represents security, comfort and how things used to be. Calling or sending care packages is one way to ease the transition. It lets your child know they are missed and still a part of the family. However, contact too frequently can be detrimental because it does not encourage the �鶹��ý to venture out or may be interpreted as “smothering.”

Encourage your �鶹��ý to get involved in campus activities and organizations, attend floor/house events and meet people. On a campus of more than 21,000 �鶹��ýs, no one will be completely isolated and alone; it may just take time to meet others. If your �鶹��ý does not know where to go to meet people, the resident assistant on the floor can be a great help in facilitating introductions. Students who stay in their room all the time or go home every weekend may actually prolong their adjustment period. Your �鶹��ý needs to give college a chance and allow some time to develop a sense of what it means to be part of WMU.

“My roommate and I just don’t get along…”

Roommate conflicts are a normal part of college life as people learn to adjust to one another. Sharing a room with someone is a new experience for most of our �鶹��ýs. Lack of communication and unrealistic expectations of the relationship are at the root of most conflicts. As such, most conflicts can be resolved by talking things out and learning that there are two sides to every situation. Often one person is hesitant to confront the other due to embarrassment, uncertainty of the other person’s reaction or what to say, or hope that the problem will just go away. The reality is that unless the other person knows that there is a problem, they cannot take corrective action or be a part of developing a compromise. If problems continue after roommates have talked, encourage your �鶹��ý to contact the resident assistant. The RA can offer advice on managing the situation, provide a mediation service or inform your �鶹��ý on how to change rooms.

The following are tips for a healthy roommate relationship:

• Spend time together to get to know each other.
• Discuss concerns immediately before they escalate.
• Respect each other’s feelings and acknowledge the different perspectives that may exist.
• Compromise.
• Keep communication lines open.
• Be mindful of common courtesy and consideration of others’ belongings and space.

“School is too hard, I don’t think I can do this…”

College is a different environment from high school and requires new ways to study, prepare for exams, take notes and manage time. What came easy academically in high school may no longer be the case. Part of it takes time and self-discipline to figure out the new set of academic expectations, but help is also available. WMU has several academic assistance programs including tutoring, study skills and note-taking tips, and writing centers. Most importantly, encourage your �鶹��ý to talk with their professors. The professor can clarify course-specific expectations, offer advice, refer your �鶹��ý to academic assistance centers or work with them individually. Other resources include upper-class �鶹��ýs and the resident assistant on your �鶹��ý's floor.

“It’s never quiet in my room and I can’t study…”

Quiet hours do exist in the residence halls and individual floor norms regarding noise will be established early on. Students are encouraged to hold each other accountable about noise and respond to peer requests to turn down music, etc. Because the resident assistant is not always around, community members need to be active in shaping their own academic environment. In addition to studying in the room, there are lounges and study rooms in the residence halls and other quiet places on campus, like the library.

“I don’t know what I want to do but everyone else has a major…”
“I thought I wanted to be a…but now I don’t…”

Students sometimes feel pressure to choose a major immediately and place the same value on choosing a major as making decisions that will affect their entire life. The reality is that it is the rare �鶹��ý who knows what they want to do and remains committed to it during a lifetime. Most �鶹��ýs will spend their early college years experimenting with different fields of study and career options until they find what genuinely interests them. Taking time with these decisions is recommended, and it is not a sign of failure if someone decides a major is not for them. If your �鶹��ý is struggling with choosing a career path, Career and Student Employment Services offers assistance.

“I can’t find anything to eat…”

Students occasionally “get tired of the same old stuff,” but Dining Services does a great job of providing variety. Encourage your �鶹��ý to explore the different dining options on campus or participate in the special meals and theme dinners that are offered. The  for the semester is online, so they can see what is being offered where and when. If your �鶹��ý is having trouble finding food, they can eat based on health or lifestyle preferences, a dietitian is available in Dining Services. They will work with your �鶹��ý to identify vegan, allergen-free and other dietary options.

“Send more money! I’m broke…”

Budgeting is an important life skill that many learn in college. Assist your �鶹��ý in developing a budget by asking where money is being spent and how frequently. Financial aid and campus jobs are readily accessible should extra income be needed. There are even job �鶹��ý in the residence halls. Students searching for on-campus employment can contact Career and Student Employment Services.

“I need a credit card…”

Providing your �鶹��ý with a credit card needs to be a family decision. It is important to discuss responsibility, spending above one’s means, developing a credit history and the impact of missed payments. Credit card companies do frequent campuses with promotional giveaways to entice �鶹��ýs to sign up for a card. Educate your �鶹��ý that signing up just to get a free T-shirt does have strings attached. Your �鶹��ý needs to fully read the information about the card before committing to anything.

"Something's broken in my room...."

Students can enter and track online work order requests via . They should provide as much detail as possible in the request, such as "the third drawer down on the dresser sticks" or "the left sink drips". Maintenance strives to repair items within 24 hours for residence halls and apartments. If �鶹��ýs are not home when they come, maintenance will enter the room, repair the item and leave residents a note they were there.

If the item is an emergency, such as an overflowing toilet, �鶹��ýs should call:

• Maintenance Service Center at (269) 387-8514

Note:  For Valley halls, the system lists them as GV1, GV2 or GV3 and then the name of the residence hall.